ABUSE – What is abuse actually ?

According to various definitions it is classified as the MISUSE of someone or something

repeatedly.  An example is the repeated habitual over-indulgence of alcohol to the detriment of the user.


We, as people, are oblivious of the many faces / types of abuse that are found amongst us.

Is it ignorance by choice, or are we afraid of getting involved in something that we can not handle ?


Whatever the reason, many of the issues that happen, are connected to some form of abuse.


Often we say something jokingly, without even considering that it might affect the person or persons whom it was aimed at.  An example – “BIG Foot”, a nickname when someone has big feet, or  “Dilly Dreams”, aimed at someone who is perhaps bespectacled and not into the fun loving things that others may like, or even calling someone a nerd, due to his / her interest in information gathering or learning.  These nicknames are mostly carried by  the people involved, for their entire lives.  However, do we, the name givers, realise what the impact is or may have been on the receivers of these names.


I agree, this is done in a sporting way, however, no person can ever know what the other person feels upon this name calling.


There are so many instances of abuse which we allow to pass us by, because, maybe we noticed an elderly person with bruises on his/ her arms and / or legs.   Upon enquiring, the affected person/s may brush it off, because he / she does not want to cause any problems, mainly being afraid of further abuse by the perpetrators.  This has frequently been proven in retirement homes, where the elderly, who can not fend for themselves are being mistreated by staff-members.


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